Asking for Help Getting a Job


The job you have impacts many parts of your life.

Sometimes you fall into a job. Like most people, you need money so the job that’s available right now is the best job at the time. Other times you might know the job you ultimately want, but it’s hard to figure out how to get there from the job you’re currently in.

Finding your way from your job today to an even better job can be a frustrating process, especially if you are doing it on your own without a lot of guidance. Like many people, you might get stuck searching for jobs online, applying to the ones that seem like a good fit and hoping that someone gets back to you.

There are other, more useful ways to navigate from your job today to an even better job. They could be less frustrating but may take a little getting used to. One of the simplest things you can start with to make progress towards finding a better job is asking people around you for help. People who move forward in their job path consistently have practiced and mastered asking for help and have learned how to use the help of people around them to get into a great job.

Something you start right away to make progress towards getting the job you want is practicing asking for help in your everyday conversations. If you ask someone for help in person, they are 34 times more likely to help you than if you ask them through email or some other way. Asking for help in person can be awkward at first - it requires a little courage in the moment. If you practice, it becomes second nature and helps get you closer to the job you want.

Here are a few ways to start practicing:

  • End every conversation by asking for help with something: When you’re having a conversation with someone and it seems like that person can help you in some way, ask for help. Asking questions is useful - even something as simple as asking someone else for a recommendation for a fitness class. Practicing these types of conversational questions will help form a habit that makes it easier to ask for job-related help when you need it.

  • Plan the job related questions you want to ask: For job-related help, you'll want your questions to be more targeted.
    Some common questions you can work into any conversation are:
    • “I’m interested in learning more about the best ag tech jobs in our area. Can you think of a few people I should talk with to learn more about the top jobs?”
    • "I’m interested in learning more about this company. Do you know anyone who works there? Would you be willing to introduce me to that person?”
    • “I heard this hospital is hiring nurses. What do you know about what work is like for nurses there? Do you know anyone who works there you could introduce me to so I can learn more?”

    If the person you’re talking to can make introductions in any way, through text or email or face to face, take them up on the intros.

  • Practice: Practice asking other people for help as much as you can. Doing it in person whenever you can is useful. This will also help you later on with asking good questions in interviews. Here’s a short video that talks more about asking people for job-related help.
By starting right now, asking friends, co-workers, family and your community for help as much as you can, you’ll start to get comfortable asking many types of people for help. This is a valuable skill to master in learning about new jobs and getting access to the people who can help you land one of those jobs.

It takes practice to feel comfortable asking someone for help If you don’t ask for help though, you know the answer will always be no.

If you ask, the answer will sometimes be yes and one yes could be the door that opens into a great job. Besides, helping each other feels good. Need help working towards your next job? Ask us for help by chatting with us here and we’ll get right back to you.

Kristen Alexander